Initial: Frederick
Profession: Psychology Undergraduate
Birthday: days left
Height: 1.76m
Weight: 63kg
Blood Type: A+
Waist size: 29-30 inches
Hobbies: Blogging; Reading; Songs & Movies; Chill out
Talent: Writing; Acting; Singing; Accents
Favourite Food:
Italian Food;
Kimchi Chigae;
Roti Prata
Most Disliked Food: Anything crustacean - due to allergy
Favourite Songs to Sing to: For You (self-composed) & The Promise
Favourite Body Parts: Nose; Jaws
Schools: Pei Chun Public School (1989 - 1995); Chong Boon Secondary School (1996 - 1999); Nanyang Polytechnic (2000 - 2003); Monash University (2006 - )
Current Pursuit: Bachelor of Behavioural Science
Research Interest: Evolutionary Psychology
Other Interests: Evolution; Genetics
Contact:
frederikan@live.co.uk
April 29, 2008
I just ended my lesson and am now waiting for the next in about a few hours. Although I am quite busy with my assignments, I thought I could spend some time blogging here before the month ends. Anyway, things are still going well for me, and I think would be able to cope with the busy schedule ahead this month and the next. That said, I haven't been sleeping enough because there is, as usual, many things on my mind lately - assignments, emotional stuff, future career, and relationships. Indeed, there is so much to do in just one day and I often complain that 24 hours isn't enough for a busy man like me. I need at least 72 hours a day! It is also hard for me to balance all of these commitments at one go. To do so is to do the impossible.
I was once told by my ex-church leader that balance is the key to life. Naively, I agreed. However, since I am no longer a believer, I now seek to challenge and to propose an adverse notion against such relatively theological statement. However, I do bear the consequence of also speaking against Aristotle's perspective that moderation in principle is a virtue. For the ancient Greeks, they practice moderation, and so they claimed... but how many them? That is, a rhetoric question that is still debatable. Philosophers and thinkers alike are people who can come up with so many different virtuous ideas of how to manage life. But it takes the willing who eventually decide upon putting words into action. I was also told by my previous leaders back in church that there are some pillars in our life that requires attention and that we have to balance them all at once. The pillars and foundation of life are namely: Relationships, Work, Education, Spirituality, and Family. It all sound so philosophical at first, when I was preached about it. However, I began to realise that all these are external factors. I do not understand the reason for balancing external factors in order to fulfill the internal self. And even if we balance them all, we would be worn out at the end of the day. Well, some Christians may disagree merely giving the excuse that without God, one would not feel charged up or energised enough to face the day. Well, if that is your belief, then so be it... because the fact one isn't feeling charged up is because he or she hasn't develop a right strategy of managing his or her time.
It's all about time management. Although I do complain about not having enough to do in a single day, I enjoy every moment of my time in life, knowing that I might not live to see tomorrow. There is always a percentage of doubt that we all must give to remind ourselves that our life is precious and so valuable that if we do not cherish every moment of it, we would eventually regret about not doing so. In addition, I do not give much concern to how much I choose to commit within a particular commitment, because I know that in every thing I do, I would definitely spend slightly more time on one thing and then slightly lesser time in another. There is no such thing called moderation in life. In every aspect of it, there can only be excess. And having excess is good because it helps us prioritize our commitments and responsibilities that we are in. There is so many things that I want to commit to and also manage them equally well and giving each of them equal quality time. However, I would be doing the impossible if I were to give it a try, even for once. There is always a sense of priority reigning over my life and that there are some things I have to sacrifice in order to attain certain goal in life.
There is no balance, just as there is no equality nor justice, nor happiness, nor meaning. Everything is the product of the mind, and a deception formed by our individualistic perspectives. I call it the "veil of ignorance" in my own term. Yet, everyday, we struggle to keep surviving in this harsh reality without knowing that we are doing the impossible and pursuing the most difficult task no one has ever attained. The irrationality of determination is the fall of anyone who thinks that it is always a "must" to attain some things in life, a "have to" be it in life, a "got to" do it in order to achieve the best of what is to come. However, no one cares about any consequences. No one bothers about the journey, but everyone wants to be at the destination all at once. Sounds very impatient indeed. And Adam Khoo, who stressed that an individual has to motivate him or herself by using words such as "I must", "I have to", or "I got to"... or, "It must", "It has to", or "It got to"... etc, in order to achieve one's goal where an individual can tap into every happiness and satisfaction at the end of the day. But, there is a problem in his motivational theory - a problem that no one bothers to identify or to tackle. It is the fact that we are never happy and will never be, if we think that there is happiness in life. In fact, it's the product of your mind that speaks to your subconscious about whether or know you are truly happy. However, that knowledge that you are truly happy is enigmatic and unknown even you and even to me. No one truly knows whether they are truly happy. So the fact remains, that to motivate oneself with Khoo's theory of coercive and forceful self-communication is a flaw and a potential of raising a society into a completely irrational one. Thus, my strong critic about his strategy is that it does not work a bit.
How then should be motivate ourselves? When talking about believing in yourself, yes, everyone can do it! I can do it! It's so easy! Believing n yourself in one thing, because faith is never enough. Faith without action is equivalent to blind faith. Telling yourself that you can be something you are not (especially at that point in time) is relatively irrational, which is also equivalent to having faith in yourself. Putting faith in God is something hypothetical... thus I would recommend something solid but yet, hard to do - Just do it with mental readiness, taking into consideration of the consequences, and be prepared for the worst.
About seeking to balance commitments in life, it is absurd. Because all it takes is knowing what to prioritize. Nothing is equally important because everything in your life is unorganised, including mine. It takes us to manage and to be responsible, because at the end of the day, our freedom of choice allows us to take responsibility for our actions and for our lives.
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