Initial: Frederick
Profession: Psychology Undergraduate
Birthday: days left
Height: 1.76m
Weight: 63kg
Blood Type: A+
Waist size: 29-30 inches
Hobbies: Blogging; Reading; Songs & Movies; Chill out
Talent: Writing; Acting; Singing; Accents
Favourite Food:
Italian Food;
Kimchi Chigae;
Roti Prata
Most Disliked Food: Anything crustacean - due to allergy
Favourite Songs to Sing to: For You (self-composed) & The Promise
Favourite Body Parts: Nose; Jaws
Schools: Pei Chun Public School (1989 - 1995); Chong Boon Secondary School (1996 - 1999); Nanyang Polytechnic (2000 - 2003); Monash University (2006 - )
Current Pursuit: Bachelor of Behavioural Science
Research Interest: Evolutionary Psychology
Other Interests: Evolution; Genetics
Contact:
frederikan@live.co.uk
March 01, 2008
My new semester started today. My very first lesson was Introduction to Counselling.
It was a class which was unexpectedly different from the ones which I have previously attended as this first lesson was indeed person-centred in my point of view. Honestly, this is one of the many lessons I enjoyed, not because of the fun or laughter, nor the joy of talking nonsense. Rather, my lecturer brought everybody into a session of self-reflection in order to discover more about ourselves. This self-awareness, so to speak, is one of the very important ingredients in becoming a successful therapist.
I was enlightened by how wonderfully all of what I have learned and experienced worked out perfectly in one clear picture. To cut the story short, I have truly learned a lot this afternoon and enjoyed my first lesson. On the other hand, this session of asking ourselves a few self-reflecting questions flashed on the projector was a frightening one for many. Self-reflection is something which we do not do very often I believe. And for me, I learned quite a lot about myself and for the very first time, I could finally list quite a long list of strengths and weaknesses I have. Finally, I think the only thing that I should work hard on is the area of my perfectionism. In its extreme, it would make me a horrifying obsessive-compulsive arse to many. In its moderation, it would give me an unstable tendency to fall short of my sanity. I think my perfectionism is the result of my pride and difficulty in dealing with angry and judgemental people.
It is such irony, isn't it? That in life, the people you meet are not those who would make you like them. Because they don't like you either. I was amazed at how, in fact, angry individuals attract angry people, and how positive individuals attract happy people. The attraction is just besides the point. If one thinks that attraction is the conclusion of such relationship formation, then he or she had just missed the mark altogether. However, the key reason for such attraction is a purposeful one, and, if some would like to put it, a potentially therapeutic one.
There was a time I realised how uncomfortable I felt when someone whined to me about his or her (not mentioning any names or gender) breakup situation. He or she was of course depressed and totally desperate for another loving relationship. There and then I did not realise why I felt uncomfortable and sounded pretty much insensitive when I told him or her something like, "Regardless of your situation, you have to move on. NOBODY is going to be of any help if you don't! Please stop that whining!"
Today's lesson concluded an unresolved issue regarding the way I personally resolved my past breakups. In fact, I did not resolve it but let it slide under the carpet for so long now. I realised that with so much repression in my life regarding the areas of my past breakups one after another has made me an utterly different individual, and most of all, a fearful and paranoid one whenever I deal with issues of breakups or relationships, be it somebody's or mine.
The more I talk about this, the more I feel like I should be the one going for some counselling instead. In fact, I should. Because I think if I continue to repress my depression, it would not do me any good.
I hope I could have some time for that... perhaps...
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