February 14, 2008
If you think this blog is closing down, it would only be the day when neurons do not exist. I have been on a hiatus since I wasn't feeling very well for the pass one week. I had fever and a very bad throat infection. According to the terminology the doctor said, it was a form of bacteria infection due to my body's excessive heat and not forgetting, my long hours of study. I was really in a bad shape last week, being partially bed-ridden, having bad appetite, nauseatic, and uncomfortable. Well, I'm all recovered now, all thanks to the medicine and my girlfriend's love. LOLx
Today is a special day made public and therefore, not a special day, but still a day worth telling your life partner how much you really love them. For singles, I understand just how you guyz are feeling. By the way, it's perfectly okay to be single. It's not a sin. It's not a bad thing either. In fact, you have more time for yourself. This day is the day you can either stay home and watch some TV, blog, check out some youtube videos, or go out and hang around with your friends. I hope I've provided some good suggestions on how to take Valentine's Day less seriously.
And by the way, I don't think
Valentine's Day is any day that special anymore. Not for me, even though I am happily attached to a wonderful girlfriend. To us, everyday is our Valentine's Day. I think.. no, we think, that Valentine's Day is such a commercialised day, passed down and secularly twisted from a traditional ancient Roman Christian festival, that almost everybody today thought it is THE day for flowers, candle-light dinner, and smooches. It seems that the canonised saint named Valentine of Rome was taken for granted long after his martyred death, and even some couples now have sex on this day without giving a damn of who the hell Valentine is. How sad. Anyway, it is a lesson here to tell us that dying for a great cause is honourable, but dying for a supernatural cause is delusional. Well, instead of dutifully honouring this day with our partner, why not everyone of us honour each and every day of our lives loving our partner willingly and wholeheartedly?
Singles, don't be disappointed if you can't get any dates on this day. It is not as if only on Valentine's Day that you should get a date. Don't follow the crowd, be special. Be unique and opinionated. The last time I remembered myself being single on Valentine's Day was February last year. Man... how lonely I must have felt. Back then, I just broke up with my ex-girlfriend and I was feeling a little disappointed and out of touch with my self-esteem. And yes, deep down, I wished that my ex-girlfriend would really come back to me and give us another chance. However, I realised that I should move on no matter what. I tried putting aside all these bad memories and negative opinions about myself and my life, and focused hard (and I mean, really focusing hard) on the future and my VIP (Very Important Plans). By keeping myself busy, showering myself with tons of knowledge - as much as I could possibly get - through reading and surfing the Internet, is a great therapy for me to get a head start on how to move on without a partner by my side.
Then one night, as I was surfing through the Internet, I found the girl whom I got really interested in. And she is now my current girlfriend.
Sometimes, things work wonders and we do not know exactly when we would meet someone who appreciates us as much as we appreciate them. I do not call this a coincidence, because coincidence is randomness, and randomness takes billions and billions of years to perfect. I do not think it is given to me by God either, because this would explain absolutely nothing. I think we do things based on our decisions and what makes two person tick is a form of agreement that has very much to do with selection. And mate selection is relatively equivalent to natural selection. I know this would sound a little superficial, but the fact is that attractive people do get attached pretty likely. How do I define attractive?
Being attractive does not mean having a great personality. I'm speaking in a man's perspective. This note is for male singles only. The exterior look of yours could very well let out your secrets. That includes your body language - how you sit, how you stand, how you walk, how you position yourself in anything you do. In fact, every position you take is a give away to the ladies on the kind of guy you are. If you are a secure person, someone who doesn't seem desperate for a mate, and is very comfortable being alone, any lady could be able to see it, that is, if she's observing you. If you are someone who is not very opinionated or a yes-man, any lady would still be able to sense it. This is very clear that not only your body language is doing the talking, but the words you say and the tone you use is a give away if any lady is smart enough to get it.
Relax, life is not about getting a partner to care for... and then have kids. Surely, there is much more things to life, than just merely getting acceptance. When I was in the darkest hours of my life, I feared for the terrible, I dreaded the worst, and I didn't like what I was going through. Sure, I went through a sudden yet traumatic break-up the last time, but through that experience, I learned so much during the times when I drowned myself with books and part-time job in a hospital. It was those times when I got drifted away into another "me", and without much notice, I am no longer über emotional or sentimental. Months later as I did some self-reflection, I realised that I have become more actualised myself. Thanks to my job, thanks to knowledge, and all thanks to the Internet.
Although I still feel sore whenever I think of my past, I still have to come to terms with the current situation and circumstance. Not forgetting my VIP (Very Important Plans) is the key to spur me on to the future. My dreams, my ambition, and my desires lie in the decision I make with my life today. What I'm embracing and pursuing is the determinant for what I would reap in the long run. Nonetheless, Valentine's Day is only but a day, but the courtship is still a long journey even after marriage.
Many of us wanted the truth in life. But seeking for the truth is only but a fantasy. There are many forms of truth that we would never know. What good would truth do to you even if you know it is? Is God the truth? If not, who is? What is? What is truth? How do you define truth? Is truth a reality? If it is, then reality is a fact. But a fact is still subjective because all facts are perceived. Perception is determined by our past knowledge and experience, and that, everyone of us have different experiences and ways of life. These differences are explanations for individual differences in human beings, and therefore, given the human condition, there is no absolute, and thus, truth is subjective. What can be more relative than this? There is no absolute, only relativity within perceived absolutes. So there is no rush to discover the truth. We can be certain about what is but we must also give a certain amount of doubt in anything that we discover.
I shall end with a food for thought.
Instead of seeking truth, why not seek possibilities?
