Initial: Frederick
Profession: Psychology Undergraduate
Birthday: days left
Height: 1.76m
Weight: 63kg
Blood Type: A+
Waist size: 29-30 inches
Hobbies: Blogging; Reading; Songs & Movies; Chill out
Talent: Writing; Acting; Singing; Accents
Favourite Food:
Italian Food;
Kimchi Chigae;
Roti Prata
Most Disliked Food: Anything crustacean - due to allergy
Favourite Songs to Sing to: For You (self-composed) & The Promise
Favourite Body Parts: Nose; Jaws
Schools: Pei Chun Public School (1989 - 1995); Chong Boon Secondary School (1996 - 1999); Nanyang Polytechnic (2000 - 2003); Monash University (2006 - )
Current Pursuit: Bachelor of Behavioural Science
Research Interest: Evolutionary Psychology
Other Interests: Evolution; Genetics
Contact:
frederikan@live.co.uk
January 27, 2007
FRIEND: -
n. a person with whom one has a bond of mutual affection, typically one exclusive of sexual or family relations. (Oxford English Dictionary)
I believe I have been repeating myself over and over again in this blog about the topic on friendship. Why? Because I value my friends. Also, I have a set of principles when it comes to this area.
The word "Friend" is a very commercialized and the most misused term in the universe. People cannot differentiate between "friends" and "acquaintances". And let me tell you guyz a secret. There should be only a few friends in your life. Honestly, not everyone can be my friend. I can't be a friend to everyone either. Whether one chooses me as his/her friend, it is ultimately that person's choice. We all have our own rights and God gave us our own rights to do what we deem fit in our lives and to our lives. If we are striped off our own rights, that goes to show how anti-social God is, which in reality, He isn't.
Friends are people who are with you through thick and thin:
- no matter what happens to you.
- no matter what you want to become.
- no matter what you have become.
- no matter which choice of path you choose in your life.
- no matter how you think negatively about that friend.
- no matter how different your goals and visions are compared to your friend's.
- no matter how not-talented or not-so-specialized you are compared to your friend.
- no matter what you are going through.
... and you know what? There's no other person in this world that fits nicely into these criteria because no one is perfect. Only God is perfect, because He shares a mutual relationship with those who believe in Him and He is there for those who seek after Him. He edifies us as we share our problems to Him, but at the same time, God reveals Himself to us when we reveal ourselves to Him.
We depend on one another as friends not just to solely edify one another (that is not enough), but to become bonded with mutual understanding and sharing. If there is no two-way sharing of personal lives in a friendship, it is not a friendship. It takes two hands to clap. And when friendship breaks down, don't blame it on any individual, but on the mindset of superiority complex (the belief system that constantly strive to be superior over the others) and avoidant attachment (the belief system that constantly guards the person from being open to others). These two mindsets are constantly stopping people from making friends effectively because everyone is afraid - afraid of bearing themselves or sharing themselves to others.
If I were to find a friend who has a little bit of all of those criteria listed above, that friend is a rare find. So in conclusion, my "friends" now are just merely acquaintances. Sorry if I sounded blunt but I guess if we keep misusing the word "friend" then I think we should change its definition in all dictionaries in the world.
But, don't be sad, I still love you guyz. lolx
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