September 26, 2006
I got a new hair cut three days ago! Actually, I planned to grow it longer. But it got real messy and "bad-hair" days were frequent for me for the past few months or so. On Tuesday afternoon right after Comms lesson, I met my darling for lunch and she was disgusted at the sight of me. Manz! That was a blow to my self-esteem + ego! Hahaha... so at that moment, I decided that I should go for a little trim to get the shape of the hairstyle I wanted to have. And... here you go, my current hairstyle:
Haha.. don't ya think it's better this way? So handsome! Like what my darling exclaimed the other day.
Shuai meh?? Okay lah.. I think it's quite neat in a way. And she likes being with a boyfriend with shorter hair instead of Jonathan Leong's hair length, which she thought of as disgusting and a complete turn-off. Haiz.. but what else can I say? I trimmed it to please her too ya know. And in return? I hope I can get more hugs from her if she's happier this way. Whahahaha! *chokes* *chokes*
Anyway, Squidy's not feeling well today. Brought her to consult her family doctor to see what went wrong. It seemed that she's been sleeping late ever since her school started. All because of her course work. This isn't healthy, plus the fact that she exercises regularly. It's going to put a strain on her health this way. Imagine having to exercise when you have limited hours of sleep? It's going to be a total burn-out manz..
I hope she's feeling much better now, and guys, please pray for her speedy recovery. My birthday's coming and I pray that she would be in good health condition to celebrate it with me... This birthday means SO much to me.
Oh Squidy, if you're reading this blog, I've copied down some sermon notes shared during cell group. They are pretty encouraging. For those who are also interested to know what's up, our pastor has been speaking about marriage and relationship between our dates or spouses for the past two months. And last week, he had completed the entire series of "Making Marriage Work". So this week, the message was a re-cap and addition to what was shared last saturday. Here you go, the summary:
7 Elements of Romance1. The Unexpected - Speaks of surprises and how they can bring both parties closer to each other. Everyone loves surprises. Giving great surprises every now and then actually do bring joy to your significant others.
2. Dating - One is never too old to date. Even thoug you're in a marriage, never kiss dating goodbye. Set aside time for each other and do the things you both once did, perhaps, on your first date, and speak as close friends again. This would bring back memories and the sweetness will come back. Be patient.
3. Something Impractical - Getting flowers for a woman may seem to be a ridiculous act to some hardcore practical individuals who lack emotional flexibility and are so romantically rigid. Although it may seem to be that way for some, it's one of the little things that mustn't be overlooked or underestimated. The impact such action can leave on a person is very lasting. And sometimes, doing the little things are much better than making a huge impression as if you are "trying too hard". For those who get it, good.
4. Creativity - Let's be flexible and not stick to the same old things over and over again. Do different things at different times. This is the key to prevent a relationship from becoming boring and turning sour in the long run.
5. Daily Caring; Showing Concern; Listening; Speaking the Love Languages - I don't need to elaborate on this. But as for love languages, I will touch on them later.
6. Open Expression - No one wants to date a robot. Let's all learn the right way to express ourselves to our significant other such that both parties could understand each other more. Not only that, being emotionally expressive could save the relationship from loads of unnecessary squabblings or conflicts. This is a very important part in the area of communication! This doesn't only apply in marriage or dating relationships, it also applies to normal social interaction with friends and relatives.
7. Commitment - The very frightening word to almost anyone on this planet, be it males or females. But it's very important if you want to keep the relationship going strong. Commitment includes quality time and undivided attention towards your significant other. It is the glue that keeps two people together. Being devoted to someone means you desire to have a long-term relationship with him/her. Also, it's a form of willing and satisfied sacrifice you make to your significant other, which is the result of your love. In my opinion, the level of love you show to someone, determines the amount of sacrifice you make. And that's a form of commitment as well.
And here comes the
5 Languages of Love... as many would have heard it:
1. Words of Affirmation - Speaking words of encouragement, assurance and praise. All these in truth with love.
2. Quality Time - Undivided attention. Can be shown through the little things like listening.
3. Gift-Giving - Being generous and giving is a form of love we can show to almost anyone around us. This helps to strengthen a relationship and this language must not to be overlooked.
4. Act of Service - The very simple little things you do to make someone happy out of love. I believe, this point is clear enough.
5. Physical Touch - We are humans, not robots. We need touch. Without them, we\'ll feel lonely, unaccepted, and lousy about ourselves. A gentle pat on the shoulder of a friend is a sign of encouragement to himher. It might just mean a lot to that person.
That's all for the sermon summary dear. I hope all that I've shared about with you lately could really encourage the both of us to work together as a team to make this relationship stronger. I have faith in you and us. Let's not cease our prayers for each other. Have a speedy recovery!
I love you.
