December 01, 2005
I just came back from a combined cell group meeting in The Third Place. It was superb. Why? Because during this meeting, a professional doctor spoke about how to deal with stress. And then, it was concluded with a short sermon on how to end this year victoriously so as to prepare ourselves physically, mentally and spiritually for the following year.
Haha.. there's this quiz I took, which will determine whether I'm coping well with stress. And guess what.. it says that I'm pretty well in control! Whahaha... I was like, "What??!! I thought it should be Danger Zone. Watch out!" Well, haha, I guess it's true in a way though as I can still smile and talk properly.
Anyway, I logged on to a forum just now and Timothy was feeling lonely again. He needs
someone's love to cheer him up. He wants a girl so badly. Aww...
Tim, you need to hang in there alright. Your dream girl will arrive soon. Just maximise your manhood while you have the time. Hahaha... and then the forumites were like, "What the heck is '
maximise your manhood'?" Then, someone was asking me to elaborate it. I wrote the entire thing of what I learned and experienced and put it into post. So this what I said (I thought of posting it here for the benefit of those guys who happen to browse thru this blog): ~
What's the role of a Man? - To Guard
- To Direct
- To Provide
To Guard - He is ultimately the future head of the household. He will be in charge of the entire family and responsible for everything that goes around him and his life.
Hence, the quality needed here is integrity, courage and responsibility.
Being a REAL man, doesn't means that you cannot shed a tear (nan zi han, liu xie bu liu lei ).
Being a REAL man, doesn't means you must pick up smoking, alcoholism or being the best flirt in town.
Being a REAL man, doesn't means you have to have the brawn and an "i-am-stronger-than-you" attitude and nothing less.
A REAL man is someone who:
- is not afraid to face their fears. (fear of failures..etc)
- is not afraid of taking responsibilty. (he's commited)
- is not afraid of serving others before him.
A MEDIOCRE man wants authority, but not accountability. They are selfish, self-centred & live a life of themselves.
To Direct - He has to be the person who makes decisions. Whenever a girl is with him. He needs to make quick decisions and ultimately direct the path.
Hence, the quality needed here is decisiveness, consistency, and strength.
Being decisive is a plus point and a very important quality to possess. Being decisive requires a large amount of wisdom and wit. But then, another way of being decisive is to be sure of yourself and what you are going after.
Being consistent refers to the consistency of your words. Words are VERY important to a man. What you speak determines where you come from and who you are as a person in character. As a REAL man, your word is your bond.
Strength, be it physical or mental (or spiritual, i shall not go deeper to that), should be there. You need to have a proper lifestyle in order to get that strength. A man's body is very important. How you take care of yourself reflect on how responsible you are on your life as well. A healthy lifestyle gives you strength, both physical and mental.
To Provide - Before speaking on providing for his own family, he has to learn how to be generous. If one is selfish, he cannot provide as much as the more generous man.
Generosity speaks louder than anything! If a man is generous, that speaks alot about him. He's willing to give and not afraid of what he'll get in return. That'll show that he'll be successful in life even in relationships. A giving man never fails to please his wife.
Next, stability is the word that's deeper than you think it is. It is no doubt essential to have a stable career, but as a REAL man, you also need to be stable in your attitude and behaviour. You can be stressed up and feel frustrated, but don't throw tantrums like a child. In another words, don't be childish.
Lastly, you need to be secure. Be confident of yourself. Have a good self-image and esteem. You need to be a wholesome person in order for you to attract the opposite sex. You are not half a locker trying to find another half.
Instead, you need to be secure in order for someone to feel the same towards you.
Some bonus thingy...
How to keep your wife in love with you?- Love her unconditionally.
- Love her sacrificially. (Love is the desire to benefit others even at the expense of yourself, because love desires to give.
- Love her redemptively. And thru your love, it changes her positively.
Hopefully this brief tip will be of good benefit. I'll blog again soon.
